February 2012
21 posts
I have decided to stop posting on Sex Work is Real Work, despite receiving many responses telling me to keep it. I have wanted to for several months now, but I couldn’t quite let go of it. When I created this blog, it was just for me and the few people that I thought would read it (i.e. my friends). However, this blog has turned into a much bigger deal that I had anticipated, and I just...
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Poll: What should I do with my blog?
Delete it: allies shouldn’t be posting about the sex industry.
Keep it: I like what you post.
Keep it: I like what you post, but you could improve it (message me with details).
Change the focus of your blog (message me with details).
Other (message me with details).
Anonymous asked: Hi it's the same girl from before, I think I sounded a bit mean in the last message & didn't really get my point across, I just mean i'd hate the idea of some wee girl seeing this blog and thinking "yeah i'll be a prostitute, it's real work, i'll be fine." Because honestly sex work is not just a regular job. I've been raped, beaten, and called every...
Anonymous asked: I know you are only trying to help, and i'm sorry if this comes off as rude, but as a sex worker I just find this pretty humiliating. We're not just some damn university essay topic, and i'm really embarrassed that you think of us as people who need someone to stand up for us, especially some one who's never done sex work. Until you've had to resort to that, you'll...
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Dear Academics,
You need to stop abusing sex workers for knowledge, money, and fame. If sex workers are being so generous as to offer you their time, energy, and personal insight into a taboo subject, you better find a way to give back. Historically, academics have used sex workers for their own professional benefits, while sex workers would receive nothing in return. That type of behavior is unethical and...
Being accepted into a Jesuit university to study the sex industry astounds me.
That just happened to me ~
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Audacia Ray: Things I Once Valued But Now Think... →
audaciaray:
I haven’t blogged step-by-step about all the things that have changed in my brain over the last couple of years with regards to the work and activism I’ve been involved with for the last decade. But things have shifted a lot for me, and hopefully also in how I do my work (forget about intentions, its all about actions). Lists are hip on the internets these days, right? So here’s...
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Anonymous asked: Hi. Me: Feminist for 10 yrs, sex-worker for 15 yrs. I 've never taken an anti-porn/anti-sex/anti-whatever-consenting-ppl-do-with-their-bodies stance. Perhaps b/c I found feminism via sex-work my exp. is unique, but I've seen anti-SW feminism at most 2 or 3 times in 10 yrs. Yet anti-feminist SWs hatred of feminists abounds. My ?s are: where do you find rabidly anti-SW fems, & how do...
"Some feminists want to stop men from seeing all... →
Great article. It’s a must read.
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“Feminist anti-prostitution rhetoric contradicts the principles of...”
– To the would-be sex work abolitionist, or, ‘ain’t I a woman’? | rabble.ca
This is an amazing article by the way.
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“When someone tells me she has feminist concerns with sex work, knowing that sex...”
– To the would-be sex work abolitionist, or, ‘ain’t I a woman’? | rabble.ca
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Porn’s taboo transsexual stars: "T-girls" are... →
Brittany St. Jordan, a 28-year-old leggy redhead in a plunging gold number, was all dressed up with somewhere to go: the Adult Video News Awards, the so-called “Oscars for the porn industry.” But she ended up standing in line for three hours waiting to walk the red carpet, as other female performers were sent ahead. When she finally got her turn, event organizers directed her away from...
Audacia Ray: Sex workers: deadline for submitting... →
audaciaray:
Do you want to present at 2012 International AIDS Conference in DC this July? Would you like to co-present with other sex workers? Do you want to present but do not want to do an entire workshop? Are you interested in on criminalization and HIV, sex work and trafficking, HIV medical model,…
“Sex work is not inherently wrong. Sex work is not inherently dangerous. Sex work...”
– an excerpt from this wonderful piece on sex work from Bitch magazine. (via thestepswetook)
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New study shows there is no link between huge... →
The claim sex work will increase is perpetuated in part because it is useful as a fundraising strategy, as a way to grab attention and be seen to “do something” about trafficking, and as a more socially acceptable guise for prostitution abolitionist agendas and anti-immigration agendas, the report said.
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“Um, I’m going to say some dirty words that I don’t like, and talk about...”
– qvaken - Comment on: A few lite thoughts on rape and prostitution
(via andythenerd)
SEX WORKER PROBLEMS: Four Detroit escorts who used... →
sexworkerproblems:
http://www.detroitnews.com/article/20111226/METRO01/112260388
http://www.freep.com/article/20120106/NEWS01/201060479/Dozens-pray-for-missing-mom-of-6-other-women-working-in-sex-industry
Signal boost. Please be careful.
An additional note from SWP: they were not “escorts”, and she is not a…
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January 2012
44 posts
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Dear Dr Phil,
dyke-recovery:
STOP DEMONIZING SEX WORK. AND STOP SAYING THAT THE SEX WORKER MUST HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM BECAUSE OF HER PROFESSION. SEX WORK IS A LEGITIMATE FORM OF WORK.
From Me.
Ps: Why the fuck do i even watch your shit? I mean, you’re a fucking moron.
PREACH.
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crepusculars asked: I disagree with what you said about GTA. The makers of the game are probably not explicitly encouraging anyone to do any of that stuff, but by putting it in the game, they are contributing to a culture that normalizes violence against women. While violent video games do not necessarily *cause* violence, studies show that they do desensitize people to violence, thereby making them more complacent...
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kat! bam! kapow!: [TW rape culture] →
workingsex:
stfurapeculture:
[when does gta encourage violence/ sexual violence against women?]
The game allows you to pick up a sex worker, have sex with her, then beat her up and take the money back. I think you can also run them over, if I recall correctly?
Just another way the patriarchy is trying to put women in their places. This is a non-subtle attempt to desensitize us...
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[TW rape culture]
stfurapeculture:
[when does gta encourage violence/ sexual violence against women?]
The game allows you to pick up a sex worker, have sex with her, then beat her up and take the money back. I think you can also run them over, if I recall correctly?
Just another way the patriarchy is trying to put women in their places. This is a non-subtle attempt to desensitize us towards violence...
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“Workshops in 2012
In the winter and spring of 2012 we are collaborating with...”
– Red Umbrella Project Workshops
Getting close to having workshop dates sorted out for Red Umbrella Project legislative advocacy trainings! Exciting stuff.
(via audaciaray)
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Phone Sex →
wantonharlot:
This photo series is pretty awesome. I’ve considered doing my own photo shoot with stories about my line of work.
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D.C. ‘prostitution-free zones’ probably... →
Reasons why it's wrong to be a sex worker:
theashkaari:
skeletonfun asked: Could you recommend me documentaries about sex work? Anything! I'll watch it all. I'm a gogo dancer and I'm incredibly interested in hearing the experiences of others, as well as learning more about various sex work industries. Thank you!
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Thoughts From The Peacock Angel: Non-Sex Worker... →
thepeacockangel:
So I was looking for one of these and couldn’t find one, anyone else who wants to contribute, feel free to.
People do not assume I am sexually available because of my profession.
People do not assume I am a drug user because of my profession.
People do not question my sexual orientation because of my profession (in cases where my profession does not fall outside social...
Can someone help me find?
thepeacockangel:
Does anyone have a good “non-sexworker privilege checklist”? (For all sex workers, not just prostitutes or strippers)
Signal boost.
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DC Residents say: no prostitution free zones!:... →
nopfzs:
Vote against making DC’s “Prostitution Free Zones” permanent.
Vote against making DC’s “Prostitution Free Zones” permanent.
Greetings,
The D.C. Council is currently considering the “Prostitution Free Zone Amendment Act,” which will affect sex workers, or anyone thought to be a sex worker. This new bill builds off the “Prostitution Free Zone Act of 2005,” which allowed the police to...
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Rent University: Classes for Men Working in the... →
(via @melissaditmore)
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SEX WORKER PROBLEMS: Notes on a whore's authentic... →
sexworkerproblems:
Getting people off is only a small part of what sex workers do. “Escort” is often viewed as a polite euphemism, but most of what we give clients is time, attention, and company. Clients don’t just want orgasms, they want affirmation. They want to look and be looked at, desire and be desired, experience pleasure and take pleasure in their ability to give it in turn.
I’ve...
vastmachinery asked: Regarding your thoughts on Short Bus: "Representing sex workers as damaged human beings..." I think this is offset by all of the characters in the film being damaged in some way, regardless of their profession. The film is daring in that it presents a certain equality among the characters despite the 'industry standard' of presenting sex workers as Other. In some respects, if...
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You've got to get on to get off
For those of you who haven’t seen Shortbus, I highly recommend you do. (Warning, it is very sexually explicit — critics complain the movie merely pornography, but they simply cannot see the art beyond the sex). Click the link to read a description of it. If you haven’t seen the film and want to, I suggest you don’t read the rest of this post because it will contain...
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I'm Hung up on you: Part 2, Great Sausage or Can I...
Highlights
Pros:
They show sex work as REAL work
Ray has his first client
Less focus on Ray’s big dick
Cons:
Ray doesn’t get paid upfront
Ray falls asleep at his client’s house
Cheesy work name
Other thoughts:
Ray should invest in some cover up
In the second episode, Ray shows up to work with a hickey the size of a child’s fist on his neck. He does a poor job of covering it up. Sure,...
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Take Me Out gigolo Aaron Withers: I've slept with... →
Male sex workers servicing women — not a myth.
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Porn actors must wear condoms, LA votes |... →
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“I used to do [porn] a fair amount, back in the “by women for women” feminist...”
– Greta Christina (Why I Probably Won’t Do Porn Again: Sexism and Being a Woman on the Internet)
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